Nathan and I went for a late night walk last night. Goal: to
get a coffee from the local coffee shop that is open 24 hours. The walk not
only gave us a chance to get out of the house, but it also gave us a chance to
look around at the new fallen snow and relish in the beauty of a still winters
night. As we walked, we passed by our local shelter for at-risk teens, which
was, unsurprisingly, bustling with activity. As we passed by, I felt a twinge
of sadness, for as Nathan and I prepare to hit the road tomorrow for a long
trip filled with friends and family, these teens, many of whom have been
ostracized by the family because of their sexual orientation or gender
identity, have only the Youth Shelter as a place where they can be themselves.
As people all over the world gather with family and friends
over this holiday season, it is important for us to recognize that there are
many within our community who are hurting and feel like they have no hope. They
are all around us, yet we often do not see them. It could be the young man we
see at the bus stop, who is afraid to go home because his father will call him “faggot”
and “queer”. It could be the young woman, who hides her true identity from her
family, because she does not want to be rejected. It could even been the
religious teen, who feels that God will not love him if he embraces his sexual
orientation. Many of us know what these individuals are feeling; we too have
been ostracized by our family or have felt the bitterness of being surrounded
by people who supposedly “care” about us, yet would reject us if they knew the
truth.
Our community has come a long way in the past few decades.
We are slowly starting to see our work bear fruit, as the votes this past
November in Maryland, Washington, and Maine show. Yet to the young gay teen in
Memphis, whose parents are active members in the local Southern Baptist Church,
the progress that we have made does nothing if his whole world is crashing down
around him. He can read in the newspaper that voters in Minnesota have not put
an anti-gay amendment in their Constitution, yet that does nothing for the hell that is his
life.
So this holiday season, as we gather with those closest to us,
it is important that we think about those who are not as fortunate. Send up a
prayer on their behalf, that they would find peace and happiness in who they
are, no matter the obstacles that they may face. Yet don’t stop with prayer and
supportive thoughts, actually get out in the community and do something for
these kids. Volunteer with your local gay and lesbian community center, or be a
consistent fixture at your local shelter for at-risk kids. It is up to us,
those who have overcome the negative societal and family pressures that these
kids are experiencing, to support and guide these kids in their time of need.